The Break-Up - Best Thing That Could Happen To You

on December 7th, 2007

You have been getting trough a brake-up a while ago. During a break-up your primary focus is on your ex, what could have happened, what if things were different, and what if you would have said something different at the right time? Once you have finished processing your past relationship it will no longer be a primary force in your life. And the calmness is taking its place in your soul again. But what’s next? Now you are OK, you can smile again. You only think of your past significant other occasionally. They no longer have all your thoughts. And something happened there in your soul and you are starting to enjoy your freedom again. But all your friends have a steady partner. Few of them are already married, and there you are. You have no steady partner. Time is passing by and you are not enjoying anymore your freedom. You are alone. After a while you realize that you need to move forward with someone new, wholeheartedly! Getting a partner is becoming your priority. This is good, because one should not continue long without a relationship. Work is not everything in life. But making this a priority has its pitfalls. The anxiety to get a steady partner as soon as possible can land you in difficulties Don’t be in a hurry to decide about who you will be dating regularly. After a brake-up you should know better what you really want from a partner. You have set your own standards and you know that if you go for anybody who does not have those qualities, you will never be happy. Once you are sure what you must get, you will not compromise. You can make a list with your expectations; it will save you from making a hasty selection and compromising your happiness by selecting a wrong partner (again). Carrying the past failure in mind will result in more waste of time in regrets, but learning form our past will lead us to a better future. Your next date may turn out to be far better than your ex and may be proper to go forward with, for a life time. And sometime maybe you will think ” Thank God my ex has dumped me, because if he/she didn’t I would have never meet the love of my life.”